SEXUALITY EDUCATION

           #SexualityEducation

v  No is A COMPLETE SENTENCE! Learn to use it well.

v  Respect is everything. Self-Respect is the icing on the “Everything”. Respect yourself and ZIP UP.

v  If she/he loves you, THEY WILL PROVE IT Y RESPECTING THAT YOU ARE WAITING AND WAIT WITH YOU.

v   Anyone who can get into your pants can discard you and your pants easily. Save yourself for that one right person.

v  Good things in life begin with you, your choices and decisions. Learn to ZIP UP. It’s all about you.

v  Sex is a COVENANT, A BOND AND VERY SPIRITUAL. THINK TWICE BEFORE YOU SPREAD THOSE LEGS.

v  Sex is A COVENANT, A BOND AND VERY SPIRITUAL. THINK TWICE BEFORE YOU GO INTO ANY SPREAD LEGS TO MAKE LOVE.

v  Anyone who cannot CONTROL SEXUAL URGES finds it hard to control other aspects of life. SEX IS MORE THAN YOU THINK.

v  YOUR LIFE IS IN YOUR HANDS. Illicit/indiscriminate Sex ruins. Abstain till and for the right time/person/mood and room.

v  You have more power than you can ever IMAGINE. Learn to say NO TO PRE&EXTRA MARITAL SEX.

v  If you use your body SEXUALLY to get to the top or acquire material things, YOU ARE A CHEAP INVERSE OF WHO GOD CREATED YOU TO BE.

v  If you want it so bad, YOU WILL PUT A RING ON IT-SEX INSIDE MARRIAGE IS THE SAFEST.

v  You might be called THE COWARD OF THE COUNTY, BUT IT PAYS TO ABSTAIN FROM SEX BE IT PRE, and EXTRA OR INDISCRIMINATE. SEX IN MARRIAGE IS HONORABLE.

v  If you imagine that your future spouse will be living with other people’s REMNANTS for the rest of His/her life, YOU WILL ZIP UP.

v  Do not take off your underwear when the time is not right.

v  Please don’t take off your underwear.

MALALA YOUSAFZAI- The Girl Beacon

   For 4years, the world has been awed by the writings, acts and advocacy of Malala Yousafzai from Pakistan.

Born 12^th July 1997 in the swat district of Pakistan’s Khyber Pakhunkhura province, 14year old Malala Yousafzai is a school student and education activist from the town of Mingora who has the world spell-bound by her education and women’s rights activism at the swat valley where the Taliban has at times banned girls from attending school and the whole of Pakistan.

From September 2008 when she spoke on “How Dare the Taliban Take Away My Basic Right to Education?” to 2009 while writing a blog for BBC detailing her life under Taliban rule and their attempts to take control of the valley and her views on promoting education for girls to continuous advocacy till present time even till the time of the attempted assassination, Malala Yousafzai has proven herself to be a BEACON.

The simplest definition of a beacon is “A fire lit on a hill as a signal or Lights acting as a signal for ships and aircrafts.” Malala Yousafzai is a bright beacon, but her light shines forth, illuminating, enlightening and beckoning to girls, systems and the world at large instead of ships and aircrafts.

             On the 9^th Of October 2012, Just 2days before the International Day of the Girl Child, a cruel and unwarranted assassination attempt was made on the life of Malala on her way back from school with bullets in her head and neck and two other girls in her proximity being injured.

Even as I write this, I keep asking myself some questions,

·        Why did those men think they needed to kill Malala?

·        For What? Advocacy on Education and Women Rights? Or just because she is a girl?

·        How dare they attempt to put out her light? Even in public glare? Such Effrontery!

·        Is she wrong to speak out?

·        Why do we still have issues with girl education in all regions of the world even in this present age?

On the 12^th of October 2012, a group of 50 Islamic Clerics in Pakistan issued a fatwa (A legal pronouncement issued by a religious law specialist on a specific issue) against those who tried to kill Malala but the Taliban reiterated its intent to kill Yousafzai and her father Ziauddin if she eventually survives.

Malala means ‘grief stricken’ and she was named after Malalai of maiwand, a pashtun poetess and warrior woman BUT Malala Yousafzai is nowhere near grief stricken-She is a heroine, supergirl, lighthouse, beacon, am running out of words here but I’d add Inspiration to the list.

Malala once said “Her purpose is to serve humanity” and she is carrying out that service dutifully at a very young age and even on her hospital bed despite the seeming threats being posed to her life and that of her family.

Malala shines so brightly, I wera shades to look at her shine.

Malala Yousafzai dared to stand for herself and other girls and used national and international media to let the world know that girls should ALSO have the right to go to school. For this and many other reasons, She is a shining light, ad MY Person of the year and century.

What are you doing in your space?

Participation is YOU....

Just like Malala, do you believe that every girl has the right to an education?

Save the girl child.

Give Girls Power and eliminate all the NOs the world poses at girl-children.

CASUAL SEX AND THE NIGERIAN YOUTH

Recently, I spoke on "Casual Sex and The Nigerian Youth" at a Reading Retreat organized by Oluseyi Olaobaju at Ibadan, Oyo State, Nigeria.
What Intrigued me was the topic of the discourse. I prayed as I usually do for inspiration to speak. I prepared my notes but something happened, I didn't feel my notes. I asked God to speak through me.
Before I continue, Someone asked me if I still have feelings of having sex and I was shocked. Yes naa, came the answer but that I have a feeling doesn't mean I must succumb to the feeling.
When you say something is casual, You mean that it is Relaxed, Unconcerned, Lacking care or thought, Informal, Happening by Chance. Oh My God!
The particular phrase that caught my attention is Lacking care or thought. How can you have sex that is lacking care or thought? You will be suprised that many youths do this alot.
Sex is big deal and goes beyond the physical-It is a Spiritual, Emotional, Psychological, and all the "als" you can think of. You cannot begin to imagine the lives, destinies, dignities, careers etc that have been wasted on the altar of sex, especially Casual sex.
Some youths engage in sex and think 'after all I am using a condom'. Will the condom take away the emotional guilt you feel?
Sex is big deal and God's idea but was meant to be in the context of Marriage. Respect yourself, your spouse to be and keep you.
It might not be easy but you can try.
#AbstinenceRocks

                               

                        

                        Reflection Time

            A Zimbabwean man who called for a prostitute to come to his hotel room said he collapsed to the floor when his daughter showed up.

Father-of-three Titus Ncube of Bulawayo said he called for a prostitute to come to the hotel room in which he was staying while having marital problems and was shocked when his 20year old daughter arrived, The British tabloid-The Mirror reported.

Ncube said he collapsed to the floor upon recognizing his daughter, who quickly fled, crying.

            Is this not the case of what goes around comes around?

Many men want to eat their cakes (use other people’s daughters) and still have it (preserve their own daughters) but forget the law of Karma (nature). Let’s bring up dignified and responsible young men who appreciate women for virtues and not just sex.

Parents and older family members need to talk to young ladies about chastity and ladies need to learn about self-appreciation and contentment.

ANGRY NIGERIAN CHILDREN WRITE MR. PRESIDENT AGAIN

ANGRY NIGERIAN CHILDREN WRITE MR. PRESIDENT AGAIN: Conscious Nigerian Children write again

                 MUSINGS OF A TROUBLED HEART

In every nation of the world, there is a place for children and youths. Even the Millennium Development Goals (MDGs) recognizes the place of children and makes it the fourth focal point “To reduce child mortality”.

     Believe it or not, children are the future of the world and we will gain or pay for whatever we do to them.

I remember when I was much younger (a child- though to my parents, I still am), everybody wanted to protect me/us from growing up too fast, hurts and the world, now I wonder when it became right for us to :

-          Abuse the fundamental rights of children

-          Abuse the child physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and most especially SEXUALLY

-          Deprive the child of necessary structures, policies, infrastructures to build their potentials

-          Bombard the child with negativism and sensitive social dilemmas

-          Entangle the child in adult misunderstandings

-          Expose the child to the ever increasing commotion of the world  and the turbulence ahead

-          Pass the wrong messages across

-          Reverse roles

-          Uncontrolled poverty

-          Brutality of some parents

-          Discrimination

“The Nigerian child suffers a combination of afflictions ranging from persistent socio cultural brutality, educational deprivations and class contradictions to poverty, jeopardized health and malnutrition, over exposure to hard labor and negative influences of the mass media.

Most ethnographic literature shows that Nigerians cherish children a lot, and desire to have some. In fact motherhood and fatherhood are regarded as the highest attainable success in life more than any measure of material wealth. However, the Nigerian child has remained largely exposed to hard labor and abandonment, in spite of the love of parents. Child labor and abuse are perhaps the most paramount of the afflictions suffered by the Nigerian Children”. (Yakubu Ozohu-Suleiman)

It is our duty to “protect the child against abuse and harmful practices”.

In the daily hustle and bustle of life, I hope you find a tiny bit of time to spare to make this world a better place for children, generations unborn.

I hope you be a refuge from the storm, a haven of hope- NOTHING YOU DO FOR A CHILD IS EVER WASTED

                          CHILDHOOD CREED

I pledge to preserve my childhood,

And enjoy my existence as a child.

To be the best in all I can while growing up,

And not jump into adulthood.

I will strive to be as sweet as nectar, as brave as a lion and as cheerful as a bear and not let anyone take undue advantage of me.

Just like Michelangelo- “I am still learning”,

And I will try to learn only positive things and not give in to peer pressure.

My future is bright and has no right to take to take me by surprise.

God willing, I will make my friends, peers, teachers, parents, family and nation proud.

I will enjoy this phase of my life in innocence as intended by God.

I pledge to preserve my childhood.